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A biblical study of anger: the sins of cruelty, lies, and gossip

bibleLast time, we shared the definition of unjustified anger and we looked at how unjustified anger can turn to wrath as we become fixated on the source of our anger. We saw how God warns us about unjustified anger and in this part of our study, we will look at how our anger, when it is rooted in the things of the flesh and this world, can quickly spiral beyond our control. The last verse I shared in our previous study was written by Solomon and is actually a verse of warning: Be not hasty in thy spirit to be angry: for anger resteth in the bosom of fools (Ecclesiastes 7:9). This warning from the Lord, if we will heed it, is God’s way of telling us we should really consider what is really the source of our anger. The second part of that verse, what I consider the qualifier is God calls us fools when we make the conscious decision to hold on to our anger and let it grow.

Unjustified anger, and again, this is anger that is fleshly based and usually happens when we feel that someone or something has caused us to become embarrassed or our best made plans to fail. This unjustified anger is not only a sin, but if we do not learn how to scriptural manage it, it will lead us to commit other sins that are totally out of our character or we normally would not even think to do. This flesh-filled and centered anger and the wrath that accompanies it has a natural tendency to bring out the very worst in our character. Again, Solomon was led by the spirit of the Lord to write Proud and haughty scorner is his name, who dealeth in proud wrath (Proverbs 21:24). When we place our pride in the things of the flesh, anything or anyone that gets between us and the object of our pride can become the focus of our anger. Some people take great pride in getting even or making sure that “someone pays the price” for what we perceive they have done. At some time, we all have said that we were going to get even with someone, or make them pay for what they did to us. We are reacting out of unjustified anger; God gives every Christian the same warning through the writings of the apostle Paul: See that none render evil for evil unto any man; but ever follow that which is good, both among yourselves, and to all men (I Thessalonians 5:15). How easy is it to allow the flesh to handle these situations; it runs against the fleshly nature we all struggle with to simply do good to those who have angered us.

If we allow our unjustified anger to grow into wrath, it can bring out the worst cruelty from within us. Within the book of Genesis there is a story of how the sons of Jacob sought revenge against a young man who had a sexual relationship with their sister, Dinah (I will note here that the Bible does not explicitly say she was raped or if she consented, as it does in other verses. The sexual act itself is not the main point of the story). Her two brothers, Simeon and Levi, humiliated and angered that their sister had a sexual relationship without being married and had that relationship someone other than from the family of Abraham (a first or second cousin, as was tradition), sought to avenge her “humility and shame.” Rather than to seek the counsel of their father, Jacob, they took matters in their own hands. When the man’s father, Hamor, came to ask about allowing his son and Dinah to marry, Levi and Simeon quickly agreed with the requirement that all men in the city become circumcised according to the tradition of Abraham. After agreeing to this request, all the men in the city were circumcised and three days later, Simeon and Levi led a band of servants and they attacked the city, killing the king, his son, and the rest of the men and took a great spoil and captives from the city. When Jacob heard what had been done “in his name,” he said, Cursed be their anger, for it was fierce; and their wrath, for it was cruel: I will divide them in Jacob, and scatter them in Israel (Genesis 49:7).

Their anger and wrath led them to unquestionable cruelty. Where we may not respond with so violent of an outburst that we set a snare that allows us to kill an entire city, we do often scheme and create scenarios in our minds. We read in newspapers, the Internet, and even on the news networks the results of some people who aren’t able to stop their wrath. They make plans or take advantage of opportunities that seem to present themselves to strike back at those who have hurt them, angered them, and embarrassed them. Jesus told all that would listen to him, But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart (Mathew 5:28). If we take this standard and apply it to our anger, then suddenly, those schemes and ideas, although never acted upon, become sin themselves – as if we had actually done them. Again, turning to the writings of Solomon, A stone is heavy, and the sand weighty; but a fool’s wrath is heavier than them both. Wrath is cruel, and anger is outrageous; but who is able to stand before envy? (Proverbs 27:3-4). When we allow our anger to taint our thinking, there is no limit to how cruel the retribution we feel is warranted by our anger. When we allow our flesh to govern our anger, we become bent on getting even and assuring that we are never harmed again. Sometimes the extent we are willing to take to get even becomes cruel to the extent it is worse than what was done to us.

Unjustified anger, as it develops into wrath, can lead us to become vocal about what we perceive as the injustice against us. It becomes easy to tell others about what was done to us, how we are the victims, and then to cast blame on the person or object of our anger. The apostle Paul witnessed this in his day and realized that it is a struggle against the flesh and he instructed the Christians at the church in Ephesus, Let all bitterness, and wrath, and anger, and clamour, and evil speaking, be put away from you, with all malice: And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ’s sake hath forgiven you (Ephesians 4:31-32). This verse calls Christians to be the opposite. We are to put away anger, bitterness, and wrath, we are not to be loud and boastful about the wrongdoings of others, nor vocalize anything that would cause anyone else to question their character, whether it is true or not. We are not to gossip about others or to spread lies. This is the opposite of what the flesh wants to do. The flesh wants to get even, to belittle, and to punish at all costs. Christ Jesus calls us to rise above the fleshly desires and motivations. Even Peter had to deal with this issue with the early Christians and wrote, Wherefore laying aside all malice, and all guile, and hypocrisies, and envies, and all evil speakings (I Peter 2:1). Just as Paul wrote, the apostle Peter is also writing to new-born, recently saved Christians. He is telling them that they are to be different from the world and are to set these things aside. It is hard when this is how we are accustomed to handling those who make us angry. There is a fleshly need to talk bad about them, to envy them of their success while we see ourselves in failure, and it is easy to try to sabotage them. Peter is reminding the Christian that these go against our new nature.

This is the second installment of the Bible and discipleship study on the two types of anger as defined and discussed in the Bible. The next installment will continue with the discussion of some of the sins that unjustified anger can lead to if we allow it to develop into wrath.

 


A biblical study of anger: unjustified anger

bibleIn March of this year, I was offered the opportunity to teach a Sunday school class for young Christians, men and women, who have recently accepted the Lord Jesus Christ as their personal savior. Since beginning the class, I have had but one goal: to teach young in the faith Christians about their new faith and how to use the Bible as a guide for daily living. Since August of 2006, when I rededicated my life to the Lord, I became determined not to repeat the mistakes of my past and to seek out His guidance through the studying of the Bible, through prayer, and the leadership of the Holy Spirit. Basic discipleship became not only something that I had to go through, but something that spoke to my heart. There is so much more to this faith we call Christianity than I ever realized. Our salvation is not the end of a journey, but the beginning!

About a month ago, I was preparing a Bible study on anger for my Sunday school class. After all, we all experience it. We all know about it. As I began my study I realized how much about anger, especially from God’s point of view, that I didn’t know or fully understand.  What I began to understand is that in the Lord’s eyes, there are only two types of anger: unjustified anger and justified anger. Unjustified anger, the most common, is also the most dangerous. It can lead us unwittingly into temptation and into sin, it can cause us to act out of character, and even cause us to hurt those around us that we would never consider harming otherwise. It is for these reasons that the Bible has three warnings about anger: Be not hasty in thy spirit to be angry: for anger resteth in the bosom of fools (Ecclesiastes 7:9), Dearly beloved, avenge not yourselves, but rather give place unto wrath: for it is written, Vengeance is mine; I will repay, saith the Lord (Romans 12:19), and But I say unto you, That whosoever is angry with his brother without a cause shall be in danger of the judgment: and whosoever shall say to his brother, Raca, shall be in danger of the council: but whosoever shall say, Thou fool, shall be in danger of hell fire (Matthew 5:22).

Unjustified anger has at its roots our flesh. Whether it is our best-made plans that fail to materialize, someone does something that hurts our pride, or simply just does something that we feel has wronged us, normally at the root is our fleshly nature. We’ve become embarrassed that we have been exposed not to be the person we want others to perceive us to be, but the way we actually are. In any case, this anger is firmly connected to our old fleshly nature and is the most dangerous. The apostle Paul, as led by the Holy Spirit, wrote Now the works of the flesh are manifest, which are these; Adultery, fornication, uncleanness, lasciviousness, Idolatry, witchcraft, hatred, variance, emulations, wrath, strife, seditions, heresies, Envyings, murders, drunkenness, revellings, and such like: of the which I tell you before, as I have also told you in time past, that they which do such things shall not inherit the kingdom of God (Galatians 5:19-21). Unjustified anger, if we gave it the chance, will lead us to hatred, anger, and other sins. Make no mistake about it, unjustified anger is a work of the flesh.

Solomon, considered as one of the greatest and wisest kings of the Old Testament, wrote A fool’s wrath is presently known: but a prudent man covereth shame (Proverbs 12:16). If we are honest with ourselves, we have seen others get mad over things that should have embarrassed them. In fact, if we are totally honest, we may have had that experience ourselves. Instead of taking the opportunity to repent of our sin and allowing God to get the glory, we make matters worse and bring more attention to what we perceive as our flaw. It’s a fleshly attitude that even Christians have and often struggle with. Most of the time, when something is made known about us, instead of feeling angry about it, we should repent of it and ask God for forgiveness instead of getting mad because of the situation our own sin and short-sightedness caused us.

Solomon also wrote He that is slow to wrath is of great understanding: but he that is hasty of spirit exalteth folly (Proverbs 14:29). When we take the time to ask ourselves the basic questions about our anger, we normally will see our anger for what it is – a reaction from the flesh. The reaction is often fast and most of the time we do not even stop to think about our actions. When we are slow to act upon our anger, it gives us a chance think about what we are truly angry and why. When we feel ourselves reacting out of anger to something done to us, we need to immediately ask ourselves questions and be completely honest with ourselves and the Lord with our answers:

  • What is the real reason for my anger?
  • What good does it do for me to be angry? How far am I willing to take my anger?
  • Why am I angry at _________? Is it because they really wronged me or because they embarrassed me?
  • What good would getting even with _______ accomplish? Why do I feel the need to make them hurt or suffer?

Solomon’s discourse on anger did not end with Proverbs 14:29, but is continued as he wrote  A stone is heavy, and the sand weighty; but a fool’s wrath is heavier than them both (Proverbs 27:3). When we succumb to the flesh and allow unjustified anger to control us, it will develop into wrath. Wrath is uncontrolled rage that seeks to be played out. Sometimes, our wrath will consume our imaginations as we begin to imagine ways of hurting the target of our wrath, even if it is someone we love and respect. What Solomon is probably referring to is that our unjustified anger and wrath becomes so much the focus that if we are not careful, it can become as heavy as sand or stones and just as hard to handle. It is easy to strike out at someone in our wrath and anger if we do not learn how to control it. Our wrath and anger become all-consuming to the extent we cannot enjoy any part of our life until our taste for wrath has been played out.

Solomon added to the warnings about anger when he wrote, Be not hasty in thy spirit to be angry: for anger resteth in the bosom of fools (Ecclesiastes 7:9). Once something is done or said out of our anger or wrath, the consequences for what we have done may be profound. The saying “sticks and stones may break my bones…” is cute, but definitely not true. Words and deeds can hurt, and when they are said and done in anger, they cannot be taken back. They cannot be undone, and are often difficult to overcome.

 This is the first installment of the Bible and discipleship study on the two types of anger as defined and discussed in the Bible. The next installment will discuss some of the sins that unjustified anger can lead to if we allow it to develop into wrath.

Just one hour a week… [the challenge]

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Earlier in January, I was working on our church’s newsletter and needed something to fill a page.  As I was considering what to do with the page, I felt led by the Holy Spirit to share something that has been on my heart for a while. During my days as a volunteer for the Boy Scouts, one of the standby jokes was that “it only took one hour a week” to make a difference in the life of a boy.  Without a doubt there is a lot of truth within that statement.  There is a lot of difference that one hour a week can make if we use it wisely.  For a moment, think of the impact in the community that the church would have if everyone would just spent one hour a week doing something to further the ministry of the local church.

As I was preparing to post this, a thought came to mind – what if for a four-month period, a challenge was made to myself and any others who wanted to see the difference that just one hour a week would add to the local church’s impact on the community.  Please do not take this challenge lightly as it is not something you can pledge to do and then not follow through with it.  If you do decide to take part in this challenge, remember what God has said about making vows: When thou vowest a vow unto God, defer not to pay it; for he hath no pleasure in fools: pay that which thou hast vowed. Better is it that thou shouldest not vow, than that thou shouldest vow and not pay (Ecclesiastes 5:4-5).  If you decide to take part in this, remember your commitment is not to me or this discipleship blog; it is a commitment between you and God. Alternately, remember that if you do make the commitment to spend an hour a week for four months, you should make every effort to complete it.   It’s why David, the psalmist, wrote Vow, and pay unto the LORD your God: let all that be round about him bring presents unto him that ought to be feared (Psalms 76:11) and why Jesus taught the crowds during his earthly ministry: And Jesus said unto him, No man, having put his hand to the plough, and looking back, is fit for the kingdom of God (Luke 9:62). Once the commitment to spend one hour a week is made it is something that we must keep doing for the entire four-month challenge.

The reason I believe that this must be a four-month challenge is because of human psychology.  According to numerous studies, it takes 120 days before anything becomes a habit, regardless of if it is a good or bad one.  It is my sincerest hope that this challenge will not be something that ends once those participating hit the four-month mark, but is something that continues beyond.  I believe that as we strive to make that difference in that one hour a week, God will bless our efforts and we will see fruit as a means to encourage us to continue. Based on my experiences, I know that if we diligently spend one hour a week sincerely trying to expand the reach of the local church’s ministry it will have an impact on our communities.  We will see souls saved, we will see the broken-hearted healed, we will see fellowship restored with members, and we will see families coming together.  I believe that one hour a week will make a difference if we use it wisely.

For many of you who are already facing busy days, you are probably wondering how you can squeeze one more hour into your already busy week.  To be completely honest with you, it would not need be given at one time, nor would it need to be spent doing just one thing. As I was preparing the article for our church newsletter, I thought about how taking the hour and dividing it into six parts, one for each day of the week except Sunday, could be used by even the busiest person to be able to make a difference over the next four months. Think of the difference that one hour could make each week even if divided among six days:

  • Just ten minutes on Monday to call those who missed Sunday morning service. It would let them know that you cared enough to notice they were not there and are concerned for them.
  • Just ten minutes on Tuesday to call the older members from our church who are shut ins. This would let them know that they are not forgotten by their church family.
  • Just ten minutes on Wednesday spent sending out cards to those going through trials and hardships in our church. This could encourage them to keep going, praying, depending, and remaining faithful to God and not giving up.
  • Just ten minutes on Thursday to take cookies to a next door neighbor or co-worker and to invite them to church. We all have neighbors and co-workers that need to have someone reach out to them with the love of God.

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