Category Archives: Our relationship with God

The lesson of waiting and faith

Therefore I will look unto the LORD; I will wait for the God of my salvation: my God will hear me (Micah 7:7).

During our pastor’s sermon last night, my wife and I shared a laugh as Pastor Ramsey talked about his own impatience.  What we found funny was not that my pastor was talking about his impatience, but he actually described my impatience perfectly!  As he began his sermon, he mentioned waiting at busy intersections, waiting in line at Walmart, and other common situations where we are forced to abandon our own self-imposed time lines and just wait.  One of the most difficult things to do is just to wait; it can be made even more difficult when we are faced with a situation where we see no visible way out!

Yesterday’s services, from Sunday school to the evening service, were filled with references and reminders that at times, it is important for us to wait and to do so in a spirit of thankfulness and  continued prayer.  Through the prophet Isaiah, God reminds both Jew and Christian alike that they that wait upon the LORD shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings as eagles; they shall run, and not be weary; and they shall walk, and not faint (Isaiah 40:31). When we wait and accept what God has planned for us we will be rewarded by an overjoyed heart and will not be filled with dread or fear, but instead will excel in what God has put before us.  Have you   ever have a job or project that you enjoyed doing so much that it didn’t seem like work?  Did you ever get excited the more you became involved in it?  Did you notice that even when things didn’t go exactly as planned that they were never as bad as they could have been?  Then you totally understand what Isaiah is speaking about in this verse.

Our adult Sunday school class teacher, Eddy Owens, shared with our class how in his life that there are times he has felt that God has shut all the doors and windows and left him in a hallway to just wait.  What an accurate description of what God will do to get our attention; the prophet Isaiah must have also felt the same way when he wrote And therefore will the LORD wait, that he may be gracious unto you, and therefore will he be exalted, that he may have mercy upon you: for the LORD is a God of judgment: blessed are all they that wait for him (Isaiah 30:18). David, whom God called a man after his own heart, wrote He maketh me to lie down in green pastures: he leadeth me beside the still waters. He restoreth my soul: he leadeth me in the paths of righteousness for his name’s sake (Psalms 23:2-3).  There’s an important lesson we can apply here – there will come times in our lives where God puts us in a situation where all we can do is to wait upon him and we are to rest ourselves – spiritually, physically, and mentally – while we wait.

There are times in our lives that we simply do need the opportunity for rest.  The psalmist and king, David, understood this quite well when he wrote Rest in the LORD, and wait patiently for him: fret not thyself because of him who prospereth in his way, because of the man who bringeth wicked devices to pass(Psalms 37:7). Right now, my wife and I am in the middle of one of these “rest, wait, and fret not…” times in our lives.  There are times where it’s easy, at least for me, to take my eyes off the Lord and begin to worry about everything else that’s going on around me.  Bills, finances, car repairs, and a whole host of things begin to preoccupy my mind.  Instead, what God wants for us is not to worry but to use the time waiting to rest.  There are times when we look back at things that have happened in our lives and we have what I refer to as a “Job moment,” For now should I have lain still and been quiet, I should have slept: then had I been at rest (Job 3:13).  Too many times when we should have rested, we worry instead.  We find ourselves spiritually tired to the point that it can delay or keep us from enjoying God’s rich blessings that he has planned for us.

Additionally, while we are waiting on God’s direction we should not be ashamed.  David, a man that found himself waiting a lot for God’s timing, wrote O my God, I trust in thee: let me not be ashamed, let not mine enemies triumph over me. Yea, let none that wait on thee be ashamed: let them be ashamed which transgress without cause (Psalms 25:2-3). We are not to be ashamed for our faith in God nor are we to be ashamed when we are placed in a position when all we can do is wait upon God’s timing. It is amazing how when Christians find themselves in situations where waiting is the only thing we can do Satan begins to taunt us with the ever so effective  “so where is your God now?”  It is important that we remember what God gently reminds us through the writing of the psalmist, David: Be still, and know that I am God: I will be exalted among the heathen, I will be exalted in the earth (Psalms 46:10).  I have learned that there are blessings for obedience.  When God tells us to wait on him, and we do, not only do we demonstrate our faith in him, but we also exercise and strengthen our faith in him.

Living a life that reflect’s God’s plan (Part 4)

For I am now ready to be offered, and the time of my departure is at hand. I have fought a good fight, I have finished my course, I have kept the faith: Henceforth there is laid up for me a crown of righteousness, which the Lord, the righteous judge, shall give me at that day: and not to me only, but unto all them also that love his appearing (II Timothy 4:6-8).

 In the previous installment of this series, the focus was primarily on how our spouses must be the second most important thing in our lives next to our personal relationship with God.  I briefly mentioned that for those that are not married, that according to the apostle Paul, their focus should be on the immediate family and the needs of the church.  It is important to include within this series a truth that’s not often preached upon but is much needed in the lives of those who are single, never married, divorced, or widowed:  God still desires your service!

Within our churches, adults that have never married and those who go through divorce, regardless of the reasons, often find themselves without opportunities for service.  As I went through my divorce, I found myself asked to step down from my role as song leader and Sunday school teacher.  I was even told that regardless of the reasons for the divorce, my Christian service was finished.  Nearly twenty years later, I have learned that it is simply not true.  Paul wrote that those who are married are not to seek to end the marriage and in the same sentence he ties it to the idea that those who are divorced are not to seek to be remarried (I Corinthians 7:27-28).  Instead of focusing on getting into another relationship, it is important to focus on our own healing and on serving God through the ministry of the church.

As did I, many Christians that go through a divorce find themselves feeling as if there are no places for us to serve within the local church.  Although divorce is the reason that one has become “loosed” it is not what should define that person.  It is the same with the single adult as well-intended and meaning friends (even members of the church) begin to wonder what is wrong with that person that has caused them to go unmarried; this also becomes an unneeded and unwarranted definition of single adulthood.

Our churches are full of adults that are single that have a sincere desire to serve God but with no opportunities to do so.  As I have found from experience and as sung by many in churches there’s a work for all to do.  Since adult singles do not have a spouse and may not have kids, their second priority is not their employment; their life’s second priority should be within their own families or to those within their local church.  Paul spends a great deal of time in his letters teaching the churches in Asia Minor that older men and women should teach the younger how to be good husbands and wives; he also teaches that the church needs to care for the aged, the widow, the poor, and the orphan.  Yes, a married person can do all those things, but as Paul wrote their focus should be on their spouse first (Titus 2:2-4; I Corinthians 7:34).

I stumbled upon this almost by accident when I went through my second divorce.  What I learned is that there are needs in every church that can be met and have the added benefit of being therapeutic for those that do them.  Take the time each week to mail a post card to the homebound of your church. Cook meals for those who are undergoing medical procedures, family difficulties, or homebound.  Visit church members that are in the hospital or take a shut in into town to the grocery store and maybe a quick bite to eat at a local restaurant. Volunteer to watch the children of a single parent; offer to babysit the children of a young couple for an afternoon.  The possibilities are endless, the need is great, and you will find yourself learning more about others and yourself than ever before.

Don’t forget the words of Jesus Christ on this very topic when he taught And the King shall answer and say unto them, Verily I say unto you, Inasmuch as you have done it unto one of the least of these my brethren, ye have done it unto me (Matthew 25:40).

 

Living a life that reflects God’s plan (Part 2)

For I am now ready to be offered, and the time of my departure is at hand. I have fought a good fight, I have finished my course, I have kept the faith: Henceforth there is laid up for me a crown of righteousness, which the Lord, the righteous judge, shall give me at that day: and not to me only, but unto all them also that love his appearing (II Timothy 4:6-8).

As I begin the second post in this series it is important to remember that outside of God, nothing that exists could exist.  In the book of Revelation Jesus is referred to as the Alpha and Omega, the beginning and the ending (Revelation 1:8).    In the Gospel of John that in the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God (John 1:1).  It seems that for Christians it would make sense to place God as our life’s first priority based on his sovereignty alone.  When you add that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth on him should not perish, but have everlasting life, common sense would seem to raise the importance of placing God in the place of honor in out lives (John 3:16).

What we see around us are Christians whose lives are filled with chaos, turmoil, and heartache.  Instead of their first  priority in life and of love being the worship and service due to God, they’ve allowed their spouse, their job, their position in the church, or maybe their kids to take center stage.  They’ve relegated God to the closet or corner of their life and have put other things ahead of God.  Our first priority in life must be our relationship with God; outside of that we are creating other gods and idols that will consume our lives.

In Genesis we see that  God created man special by giving him the breath of life; it was God’s plan to be able to fellowship and commune with Adam and Eve in a very real and physical way – by walking alongside them in the Garden of Eden (Genesis 3:8-9).  This was they way God had intended it to be until sin came into the picture – Eve placed the forbidden fruit ahead of God and Adam willfully put Eve as the top priority in his life.

Since then, sin has dominated the life of man.  We are saved from our sins by the grace of God through the completed work of the Lord Jesus Christ.  It is because of the high cost of our salvation – the death of the Son of God on the cross – that we should present our bodies  as a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable unto God, which is our reasonable service, as stated so eloquently yet simple by the apostle Paul (Romans 12:1).  Without God, we would not have our physical life; without Christ, we would not have an eternal life, but an eternal separation from God in the lake of fire.

The lost world ridicules thou shalt have no other God before me offering strict criticism and rebuke for those who truly seek to put God first in their lives (Exodus 20:3).  They scoff and mock For thou shalt worship no other god: for the LORD, whose name is Jealous, is a jealous God and claim that how can anyone seriously serve a deity that destroys those who oppose him.  It is hard for those who do not believe in God to place him as a priority; for Christians, we have become so tainted by the world view and definition of who God is that we tend to forget how important our relationship with him actually is.

Sociologists and psychologists have determined that it takes about 80 hours of personal contact before we let our guard down and befriend someone.  It is important that we spend time with God in our lives through prayer, meditation and studying of the Bible, sharing of the gospel message with others, and in church services as we worship and fellowship with other believers (Hebrews 10:25). In our daily prayers,we need to lift up our enemies (Matthew 5:44), our daily needs (Matthew 6:11), and pray from our hears and just be honest with God (Matthew 6:7).  We need to read our Bibles on a daily basis with the exact same intensity that we read, study, and review materials for our work (II Timothy 2:15).  We need to share our faith with those we know and meet each day (Mark 16:15).